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The Will To Understand and Be Understood

Three summers ago I went on a pilgrimage to Fatima in central Portugal. The city is famous for the Marian apparations that took place there in 1917. I celebrated masses in the Basilica and in the Sanctuary with a group of Dutch-Filipino pilgrims. Aside from checking out Fatima’s shrines, museums and bookstores, I also visited nearby towns and communities.

One place that is worth mentioning is Cova da Iria. For it was there where I met an old woman sitting at a well. She claimed to be a relative of Lucia, one of the three peasant children who witnessed the apparition of the Virgin Mary. The other two were Francisco and Jacinta. The old woman explained to me that Cova da Iria was the place where the Virgin Mary first appeared to the three seers. She added that the first thing the Virgin said to the children was “Be not afraid, I will not harm you.”

She related to me many other things – the miracle of the sun, the visions of hell, the deaths of the seers, and the number of times she had to repeat all these information to a curious tourist. But the most curious thing of all is that she was talking to me in Portuguese and I understood everything she said. To think that I have not studied Portuguese at all.

I spoke to her in Italian and she seemed to have understood everything I said as well. To think that she did not know any other language except Portuguese. We were speaking in entirely different languages yet we understood each other perfectly.

The experience taught me something about understanding and being understood – that the most important thing in any communication process is not grammar, nor syntax, nor spelling, nor the language itself, but the will to understand and be understood.

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The Pianist

A few days ago I went to the Power Plant mall at the Rockwell Center to purchase some stuff. In the lower ground floor I saw this thirty-something man playing the piano. I did not think that he was paid to do it because he was playing his music with an exclamation point!

I stopped and listened to his music intently. Even if he was playing with such passion and deftness, nobody else cared to listen to him. People just passed him by and those in the nearby cafes and restos did not appear to have noticed that there was music at all. The romantic in me assumed that the pianist was playing the melody for a loved one because he played it with an intensity only a lover could muster.

My untrained ear could not recognize the piece – it could have been a Mozart or a Beethoven. I looked at his adept fingers, the sways of his head, his closed eyes, his mesmerized self. The rhythm of his music found its way into my soul, and it washed away my stress and engendered some positivity in me.

Sir Thomas Beecham once said that ”great music is that which penetrates the ear with facility and leaves the memory with difficulty.” How true.

I waited for the pianist to finish because I wanted to let him know that somebody was listening to him, that I was listening to him with as much passion as he was playing. When he finished he opened his eyes and looked around. He saw me and I smiled. He smiled in return and then closed his eyes again to play another melodious tone.

Even on my way out of the mall I still listened to his piano and somehow everything else was canceled out – the chatters, the opening and closing of doors, the cash machines, the cacophony in the mall.

That pianist taught me something worthwhile: that when I do something with passion, there is always somebody who appreciates it and is touched by it – even if I do not recognize that somebody’s presence.

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A Day Without Rain

There is something about humidity and heat that just makes you want to relive moments when you felt you were on fire. Just as the temperature in Manila reached record highs, I found an online poem that burned with passion. It speaks of a woman’s love that finds heaven in the nearness of the beloved [...]

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Stuck In A Moment

I was waiting for the arrival of my nephew at the Manila domestic airport when I wrote these lists. I knew I was in for a long wait so I brought my notebook and pencil with me. I didn’t really have a theme in mind but somehow I ended up with the following: Ten Of [...]

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Selflessness

The beggar has shown once again that Filipinos, even those who have virtually nothing, always respond when their help is needed.

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Sustainable Designs

I have found another reason to love the Dutch. I have always admired their healthy bicycle lifestyle, their canals and windmills, their swingbridges and colorful tulips, their efficient airport and tasty cheese. And now, their creative sustainable designs.

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The Pigsty

The world-renowned Lourdes Grotto in France used to be a pigsty. Why in the world would the Virgin Mary choose to appear in such a filthy place? And of all people, to an illiterate, poor teenage girl?

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Lourdes: A Place of Healing

More than the miraculous bathing pools and the hundreds of burning candles at the Grotto, what makes Lourdes a place of healing is the presence of people who express their faith by helping other people.

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Red Light

At the start of the trip, his mother asked Valerio to hold my hand so he could feel secure. When I alighted from the bus it dawned on me that through his gentle grasp, Valerio unknowingly taught me that sometimes I need to stop at red lights to meet new friends.

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How To Turn Routine Moments Into Prayer

From the instant you wake up in the morning to the moment you close your eyes to sleep in the evening, there are many ways to experience God’s presence in everyday things. I list here 10 possibilities. You may add more.

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